How does your family manage through the excruciating long process of adopting a child?
How do you bear those long days, or even years, of waiting to hear some good news?
And then after that long-awaited news comes, next is often more waiting.
I’ve been thinking about adopting families a lot these past few months as we are in a season of waiting.
Our season of waiting is not noble like the families who are adopting a child. Yet, I am getting just a little taste of what it must feel like and it has me admiring you amazing people even more than I already did.
The months of waiting and not knowing have felt difficult for us.
We’ve been talking and dreaming together as a family. We feel excited and nervous and impatient.
“Any news? When do you think we’ll know something?”
Those are the words we often speak to each other.
So, do you want to know what we are waiting for?
Yes? Ok, here it is….
A darling little puppy.
Yep, that’s right. A dog.
Dogs are wonderful creatures and certainly become a true part of a family but I realize we are talking about a dog, and not a human being. So the anticipation we feel doesn’t even compare to what adopters of a child must feel like.
Plus, we, as wannabe dog owners, have the opportunity to go to the humane society or even the pet store to pick up a dog or a puppy and then we’d have our dog right away. Adopters of children don’t have that option.
To clarify, we already made the mistake of purchasing a puppy from a pet store many years ago and later realized those dogs come from puppy mills. Our sweet dog, Charlie, had so many health problems which led to a too-short life and heartache for us, so we will not go down that road again.
Because of our previous experience, we have decided to go with a breeder for our pup and have narrowed it down to basically one breeder. And this breeder doesn’t have a lot of litters each year so that means we wait.
And the funny thing? Our children have been waiting for over a year for a dog and just might have more patience then Joey and I. They’ve been asking for a dog since last spring and the answer was no until about 4 or 5 months ago when we softened to the idea.
Once Joey and I determined that yes, we are finally ready to have a dog join our family again, I guess we kind of felt like that should happen immediately. And of course it didn’t and so we wait.
As we wait, I can’t help but think about families who are adopting children almost daily. And that has led me to realize that maybe waiting for this dog is exactly where God wants us to be. Maybe thinking about adopting families is exactly where He wants me to be. Maybe He wants us to support and pray for all those families who are adopting children.
And so, as we wait for our puppy, and I am thinking about all the adopting families out there, I will pray for them. I will pray for you.
You are amazing
And if you are one of those people, please know that I think you are amazing. For you to open your home and your heart to a child (or children) in the way that you do, even when there may be huge challenges because of it, leaves me in awe. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for the selfless love that you are giving and for the stories you share with the rest of us. It is so incredibly inspiring.
How can I pray for you?
If you have adopted a child, are planning to adopt a child or are in the adoption process and would like me to specifically pray for you, please leave your information in the comments or email me. I would be honored to pray for you.
In memory of our sweet Charlie boy.
Photo from August 2006.